When Your Old Patterns Require New Fight

Week 1 of The Madness of Motherhood, and we are spending this first week going back to the basics…today girls, let’s fight for some Truth in our lives. 


Mounds of laundry were everywhere, and while I was sorting through the mess of it all, I heard it. Upstairs my kids were loud and circling, and there was fighting and too much frenzy going on … and I felt it. My frustration levels were escalating and all I wanted to do was march up the stairs and make it stop.

But then this…a verse that had been circling through my mind in my weary attempts to turn my theories about God into actual realities.

Because this…God’s Word has been my True North, all my life. When tragedy has fallen, God’s Word has held me. When questions have come, God’s Word has pointed the way. God’s Word has been constant, the one Truth I can always go to.

And so, in this season of old patterns fighting so strongly against where I so desperately wanted to be as a mom – old patterns of getting mad/feeling bad/wanting to change/doing it all again – I knew I had to fight for this one.

I had to fight for this one, because I wanted a different story.

This legacy and hold of anger in our family could not go on like it had for so many decades, for so many generations. This anger had wound its way around my family and resulted in such great woundings, scars, broken relationships and lost ways.

I wanted a different story, and my only weapon was Truth.

So, in the middle of the laundry and the mess of it all…out loud…until my soul understood it well…this from James…

“The anger of man does not accomplish the righteousness of God.”

…God change me from the inside out, because my anger will not accomplish your righteousness in my children. God, take my old patterns and make them new, because my anger does not accomplish your righteousness in my children…and I want your righteousness in my children, more than I want to hold onto my anger…

Over and over, until my soul knew it well.

Those words, in the middle of that laundering space, washed over and realigned my heart, allowing me to walk upstairs in the wisdom of His Truth, instead of the weakness of my own strength.

God’s Word has the power to change us from the inside out.

Today as a mom, what are you struggling to see? What madness are you fighting against?

Two ideas for you my sweet friend:

  1. Fight for Truth for your circumstance. Maybe you know a verse. If you don’t, search your Bible’s reference section. Or, here’s an online site I use a lot.
  2. Write it down. Memorize it. Speak it out. Let it become louder than your distractions. Louder than your social media. Louder than the lies you believe. Let it become the very Truth you know to your soul. 

As moms who desperately want to be the best moms possible, who love our children with all that we are, we must fight for Truth.


Because living out of a lie will only hurt you and your family.

This week, determine to stand in the middle of the mess of it all… in Truth.

Blessed is the one…whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and who meditates on His law day and night. That person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither—whatever they do prospers. Psalm 1:1-3

Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. Psalm 119:105

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. Colossians 3:16


For the next four weeks, we are taking some time out for the mamas.
The Madness of Motherhood Series will provide key truths and big encouragements for your mother’s heart.
If you know a mom who would be encouraged by this series,
invite them to join us here.




  1. Diane on April 17, 2017 at 1:59 pm

    Yes. My friend. Yes. Well said!

  2. Beth Tuthill on April 17, 2017 at 4:55 pm

    This truth is not only a ‘wake up call’ but sweet refreshment too. And very well articulated:) THANKyou Julie!

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